Let’s be real: “I’m too busy” isn’t always a bad thing. In fact, it’s often your inner goddess throwing up a do not disturb sign while the universe clears out the nonsense. For the modern working woman juggling Google Calendar meetings and dodging “wyd” texts, being booked and busy might just be your secret superpower.
So let’s unpack the five glorious times being busy actually saved you from settling, for less than you deserve. (You’ll want to high-five yourself by #3.)
1. The “Good on Paper” Guy Who Was Boring IRL
The problem:
He had a steady job, called his mom weekly, and quoted Malcolm Gladwell way too much. You almost convinced yourself he was the one. But deep down, you knew a life with him would be one long, beige TED Talk.
How being busy saved you:
You canceled a second date because work was on fire (again). He moved on. You moved forward.
The takeaway:
Just because someone checks boxes doesn’t mean they check your soul. Your schedule saved you from lukewarm love and lukewarm lattes in the suburbs.
2. The “Let’s Just See Where It Goes” Guy
The problem:
Translation: “I want all the benefits of a relationship without actually committing.” You were low-key hoping he’d wake up one day and realize you’re a literal gem.
How being busy saved you:
He texted “you up?” at 11:45 PM. You were knee-deep in pitch decks and too tired to reply. Bless your hustle.
The takeaway:
Your ambition gave you the clarity (and exhaustion) you needed to ignore breadcrumb behavior. If he can’t make time for you in the light of day, he doesn’t deserve your midnight attention.
3. The “It’s Complicated” Ex
The problem:
You had history. Inside jokes. That one playlist you both loved. But it also came with emotional gymnastics and stress-induced skincare emergencies.
How being busy saved you:
You didn’t have time to spiral. Deadlines > drama. You ghosted the ghost of your past by accident, and guess what? You survived. Thrived, even.
The takeaway:
Growth isn’t always glamorous. Sometimes it’s just being too busy to reply to the same old nonsense. You’re not cold, you’re evolving.
4. The “But I’m Lonely” Settling Moment
The problem:
You stared at your phone on a Friday night, contemplating a risky scroll through your exes, because being alone can feel like failure, even when it’s actually freedom.
How being busy saved you:
Your bestie dragged you to that networking event you didn’t want to go to. You ended up meeting someone who actually asks you questions and listens.
The takeaway:
Busy doesn’t always mean burnout, it means distraction from dumb decisions. Give your loneliness something better to do.
5. The “Nice Enough” Relationship That Was Going Nowhere
The problem:
You were together out of habit. You weren’t unhappy… but you weren’t excited either. Life became autopilot with occasional sushi nights.
How being busy saved you:
Work ramped up, and suddenly you realized: you weren’t making time for each other, because you didn’t want to. Oof.
The takeaway:
Sometimes love doesn’t die with a bang, it just fades while you’re off slaying your goals. Your ambition whispered what your heart was afraid to hear: you deserve fireworks, not flickers.
Final Mic-Drop Moment
Busy isn’t always bad. Sometimes it’s your intuition in a pencil skirt, pushing you past the mediocre and into your magic.
So, tell me, when did being “too busy” actually save you from a bad choice?
Drop it in the comments, sis. Let’s celebrate our glow-ups.