Let’s get one thing straight: you didn’t crush that Monday presentation, power through three back-to-back Zoom calls, and meal-prep like a boss just to open your dating app and see a message that says “Sup.”
No ma’am. You are a whole vibe. And your dating profile? It should be too.
Whether you’re swiping in between conference calls or scrolling on your lunch break, your profile should work for you, filtering out the meh and drawing in the “Where have you been all my life?” kinda people. So if your inbox looks more like a desert than a destination, it might be time for a little strategic tweaking.
Here are 6 real talk profile fixes to help you attract better, smarter, sexier matches (aka the people who deserve your energy):
1. Problem: Your Bio Is Basically a LinkedIn Summary
Fix: Add you to your “about me”
We get it, you’re ambitious. You’re a boss. But if your dating profile reads like a resume (“Goal-oriented professional with a passion for optimization”), you might be attracting guys who think passion = spreadsheets.
Try this instead:
Let your personality take the lead. Swap out “workaholic” for something cheeky like:
“By day, I slay spreadsheets. By night, I slay pizza and bad reality TV. Looking for someone who can keep up with both.”
It’s still you, but with flavor.
2. Problem: Your Photos Look Like a Corporate Headshot Catalog
Fix: Show your vibe, not just your face
Yes, you’re beautiful in that blazer. But if every photo screams “professional networking event,” people might not see the full you, the fun you, the weekend you, the adventurous you.
Try this instead:
Mix it up! One solid headshot? Sure. But add a candid laughing pic, a travel moment, or even you mid-latte-sip at your favorite café. You’re not a statue, don’t pose like one.
3. Problem: You’re Playing It Too Cool
Fix: Say what you actually want
You’re not “just seeing what’s out there.” That’s what people say when they’re afraid of scaring people off with real standards. And you? You don’t have time to waste.
Try this instead:
Be upfront, in a way that feels good.
“Career-focused and emotionally intelligent. Looking for something real, but not rushing the aisle. You bring the banter; I’ll bring the wine.”
Confidence is sexy. So is clarity.
4. Problem: Your Prompts Sound Like Everyone Else’s
Fix: Turn “quirky” into connection bait
“I love travel, food, and dogs” = everyone ever. Don’t be basic when you’re clearly not.
Try this instead:
Get specific. Instead of “I love food,” say:
“I have a PhD in spicy ramen and will judge your taco order (lovingly).”
That’s a conversation starter and a subtle flex.
5. Problem: You’re Not Filtering Out the Wrong Matches
Fix: Use your words like a gatekeeper
Not every match deserves your energy. If your DMs are full of guys who don’t get it, it might be time to say what’s not gonna fly.
Try this instead:
“I appreciate good banter, clear intentions, and men who know how to communicate. If ghosting is your thing, swipe left. If real talk is your thing, hey .”
Boundaries are hot. So is self-respect.
6. Problem: You’re Underestimating Your Own Magic
Fix: Flaunt it, smartly
Too many incredible women downplay themselves online. They think they have to be “chill” to be liked. But your ambition, humor, and fire? That’s exactly what the right person is looking for.
Try this instead:
Write your profile like you’re texting your bestie. Be bold. Be funny. Be exactly who you are on a good hair day after 8 hours of sleep.
Example:
“Thriving in my career, laughing way too hard at my own jokes, and hoping to find someone who thinks ‘let’s make pasta from scratch and binge Succession’ counts as a hot date.”
The Bottom Line?
You don’t have to shrink yourself to fit someone else’s idea of “datable.” You just have to shine louder, so the right ones can actually find you.
Now tell me, what’s the one line in your profile that makes you feel like a total catch? Drop it in the comments. Let’s level up together.