You’ve conquered the boardroom, managed deadlines like a queen, and still managed to show up to brunch looking fabulous. But when it comes to dating? Oh boy. If you’ve ever found yourself stress-texting between Zoom calls or analyzing his one-word response at 1 AM, you are NOT alone.
Dating as a busy, ambitious woman is like trying to fit a workout into your schedule, you could do it, but at what cost? So, let’s make sure you’re playing this game like the boss you are! Here are seven ironclad rules every working woman should follow to avoid unnecessary drama, time-wasters, and emotional burnout.
1. Your Time Is a Limited Edition, Use It Wisely
Let’s get one thing straight, your calendar is more valuable than a Birkin bag. If he’s constantly “too busy” to make real plans, guess what? So are you. If a guy wants to see you, he will make it happen. If he doesn’t? Next! Prioritize someone who respects your time and effort, just like you do with your career.
2. Ghosting Is for Amateurs, Don’t Tolerate It
You don’t put up with flaky coworkers, so why tolerate it in dating? If he disappears and reappears like a badly written TV character, let him go. Your time is better spent binge-watching a show where the plot actually makes sense.
3. Stop Apologizing for Your Ambition
You don’t need to downplay your success to make someone feel comfortable. If your job intimidates him, that’s a him problem, not a you problem. The right partner will celebrate your wins, not feel threatened by them.
4. The ‘Three-Date’ Rule: Evaluate, Don’t Just Impress
It’s easy to get caught up in making him like you, but sis, do you even like him? By date three, ask yourself: Does he add value to my life? Do I enjoy his company or just the idea of him? If the answer is meh, cut your losses. Your time is precious.
5. No, You’re Not His Therapist (Unless He’s Paying You)
Yes, emotional intelligence is sexy, but you didn’t sign up for free therapy sessions. If he’s unloading all his unresolved trauma on you by the second date, run. You already have work stress; you don’t need a second unpaid job.
6. Your Standards Are NOT “Too High”
Ever been told you’re “too picky”? Ignore that nonsense. You have high standards for your career, friendships, and lifestyle, why should your love life be any different? Stick to your non-negotiables and don’t settle just because someone said you should.
7. Texting Games Are for Teenagers
If he takes three days to reply to your text, take forever to care. Healthy communication isn’t a mystery, it’s basic respect. If you’re constantly decoding his messages like an FBI agent, he’s not the one. Move on.
Final Thought: Are You Choosing Love or Just Avoiding Loneliness?
Here’s the mic-drop question: Are you dating because you want to, or because you think you should? The best relationships complement your amazing life, not complicate it.
Now, tell me, what’s the one dating rule you swear by? Drop it in the comments and let’s chat!