Ever walked out of an interview feeling like you crushed it, only to get that dreaded “We’ve decided to move forward with another candidate” email? Ouch. The job market is already a battlefield, and let’s be honest, women face a whole extra layer of nonsense in the hiring process. But here’s the deal: some mistakes we make in interviews are totally fixable!
So, if you’re tired of rejection emails and “We’ll keep your resume on file” lies, let’s dive into the 10 mistakes that might be sabotaging your chances, without you even realizing it.
1. Underselling Yourself Like You’re at a Clearance Sale
Why do we do this? Studies show that women tend to downplay their achievements, while men confidently oversell theirs. Stop saying things like, “I was just part of the team that worked on…” NO! You led, strategized, executed, OWN IT.
Fix It:
- Replace “I helped with” with “I led/managed/implemented.”
- Talk about impact. Use numbers. “Increased revenue by 20%” sounds way better than “worked on sales.”
2. Waiting for Permission to Brag
Let’s be real, if you don’t advocate for yourself, who will? Your competition (a.k.a. that guy who calls himself a ‘guru’ on LinkedIn) is out there selling his skills like a used-car salesman. Time to step up!
Fix It:
- Prepare a 30-second elevator pitch highlighting your key achievements.
- Practice saying it in the mirror until it feels natural (yes, really).
3. Dressing “Too Safe” or “Too Stylish”
The sad reality? Women’s interview outfits are unfairly scrutinized. Wear something too neutral, and you blend in. Wear something too bold, and suddenly, it’s a fashion critique session.
Fix It:
- Dress for the company culture. Research what employees wear.
- Stick to power colors, navy, black, deep red. (A pop of color = confidence.)
4. Apologizing for Absolutely No Reason
You didn’t accidentally walk into the wrong room. Stop saying, “Sorry, I just wanted to ask…” You belong in that interview.
Fix It:
- Swap “Sorry” for “I’d like to add” or “Here’s my perspective.”
- Record yourself speaking and cut unnecessary apologies.
5. Being Overly Polite Instead of Assertive
Saying “Yes, of course!” to everything makes you seem agreeable, but not necessarily strong. Employers want leaders, not doormats.
Fix It:
- If you don’t know an answer, say, “That’s a great question. Here’s how I’d approach it.”
- Speak slowly and confidently. Silence is your friend, don’t rush to fill gaps.
6. Not Negotiating Because You Feel ‘Grateful’ for the Offer
Job offer excitement can quickly turn into “I don’t want to seem difficult, so I’ll just accept whatever salary they give me.” Sound familiar?
Fix It:
- Research salaries beforehand (Glassdoor, LinkedIn, Payscale are your BFFs).
- Say: “I’m excited about this opportunity. Based on my research, a competitive salary for this role is [$X].”
7. Over-Explaining Personal Life Choices
Did they ask why you took a career break? No? Then don’t launch into a TED Talk about it. Over-explaining makes it seem like you’re justifying your existence.
Fix It:
- If it comes up, keep it brief: “I took time off for personal development and now I’m excited to bring my skills back into the workforce.”
8. Not Asking Questions Like a Boss
When they ask, “Do you have any questions for us?” never, EVER say “No.” You’re interviewing them too!
Fix It:
- Ask about company culture: “What do you love most about working here?”
- Show strategic thinking: “What’s the biggest challenge your team is facing?”
9. Forgetting That Body Language Speaks Louder Than Words
Slouching? Weak handshake? Nervous fidgeting? These tiny things can scream “I’m not confident” even when your words say otherwise.
Fix It:
- Sit up straight, make eye contact, and own the room.
- Keep a relaxed but firm handshake (no limp fish, no bone-crusher).
10. Not Following Up Like a Pro
If you leave the interview and just wait, you’re missing out. A killer follow-up email can make all the difference.
Fix It:
- Send a thank-you email within 24 hours.
- Reinforce your enthusiasm: “I really enjoyed our conversation and am excited about the opportunity to contribute to your team.”
Ready to Get Hired? Let’s Do This!
You are smart. You are capable. And you deserve that job. So next time you walk into an interview, leave the self-doubt at the door and take control of your career.
Now, tell me: Which of these mistakes have YOU made before? And which one are you going to fix first? Drop your thoughts in the comments below!