Spoiler alert: if you’ve ever sent a “sorry, I’m just so busy with work” text while mentally making space for his nonsense, this one’s for you.
We’ve all been there. Balancing deadlines, meetings, and the occasional mental breakdown , all while trying to nurture a love life that doesn’t leave you emotionally bankrupt. And sometimes, no matter how much you bend, flex, or rearrange your calendar, the man in your life still shows up emotionally… out of office.
So let’s talk about the things you absolutely, unapologetically deserve , and what to do when he couldn’t (or wouldn’t) give them to you.
1. Support, Not Excuses
Ever had one of those weeks where your boss piled on extra work, your friend needed a pep talk at midnight, and your man… ghosted because he “had a long day”?
Girl, so did you , but you still showed up.
You deserve someone who’s your emotional co-pilot, not just another passenger adding weight. Support doesn’t always mean grand gestures; sometimes it’s as simple as a “You’ve got this” text before your presentation or picking up takeout when you’re drowning in emails.
Real Talk Solution: Stop normalizing emotional bare minimums. The right person won’t need to be told how to show up for you , they’ll make it happen, the same way you do for the people you love.
2. Respect for Your Hustle
Raise your hand if you’ve ever downplayed your ambition so a man wouldn’t feel “intimidated.” (Yeah, thought so.)
Your career is not a hobby. Your dreams are not a side gig. And your ambition is not a flaw that needs “fixing” so a man can feel taller standing next to you.
Real Talk Solution: The right relationship won’t ask you to choose between love and success. Surround yourself with people who clap when you win , not people who compete with your calendar.
3. Consistency Over Convenience
Hot on Monday, cold by Thursday. Sweet texts when he’s bored, radio silence when you’re swamped. Sound familiar?
You’re not an afterthought or a time-filler for his convenience. Love isn’t a part-time job you do when you “find time” , and neither is respect.
Real Talk Solution: Pay attention to patterns, not promises. Consistency is the love language you didn’t know you needed, and it’s non-negotiable. Let the flakes fall away and make room for someone reliable.
4. Peace, Not Project Management
If you’re always the one making the plans, starting the hard conversations, and gluing the relationship back together after every crack , congrats, you’re not dating, you’re doing unpaid project management.
And honey, you already have a full-time job.
Real Talk Solution: A healthy relationship won’t leave you emotionally overworked. If you’re constantly managing his moods, habits, and schedule, it’s time for a performance review , and spoiler: the job vacancy is wide open for someone better.
The Bottom Line:
You’ve worked too hard building your life to settle for someone who makes you feel small in it.
So tell me , what’s one thing you stopped tolerating when you finally realized you deserved better?
Drop it in the comments. Your future self is already clapping.